Sometimes it can be a real challenge to find time for yourself. Children are especially demanding in terms of care and attention, both emotionally and physically. However, self‑care is not a luxury, but a necessity for maintaining a healthy body and mind.
1. Understanding your child’s needs
A young child begins to explore the world around them with greater curiosity and independence. This means you often face the need for constant supervision and support. It is crucial to understand the developmental milestones a child at this age is experiencing—from early attempts at communication to emotional reactions.
According to developmental psychologists, children around the age of two go through the so‑called 'separation', when they first become aware of their individuality. This may show up as testing limits, which is often accompanied by frustration and tantrums. The key is to provide a safe, supportive environment where the child can express these emotions and learn to manage them.
Parents should be prepared for daily routines to be frequently disrupted by sudden outbursts, which are typical for this age. The ability to respond quickly and patiently to changes can significantly reduce stress.
2. Setting a routine that works for both you and your child
Routine is key for two‑year‑olds, as it provides a sense of safety and predictability. Consistency doesn’t have to mean rigidity; it’s more about a structure you can move within with some flexibility.
When planning the daily schedule, try to consider the needs of the whole family—yours included. Aim to set aside time for activities that matter to both your child and you. For example, reading together or going for walks can be enjoyable for both. Also try to share family responsibilities with your partner. Choose times when your partner isn’t working, such as evenings or weekends. You can ask grandparents to help with babysitting, and you might also consider hiring a nanny. We highly recommend occasionally having 2–4 hours just for yourself, when you can do only what you want.
If it fits your child’s age, involve them in simple tasks such as tidying toys or helping with cooking. Not only will this build their skills and self‑confidence, it will also free up space for your own activities.
3. Making the most of the time when your child is sleeping or engaged
The time when your child sleeps is an ideal opportunity for parents to recover and recharge. Some parents use these moments for household chores, but it’s also important to reserve part of this time for rest. Creative activities, reading, or a short meditation can be a great way to relax and restore your energy. Sometimes you can enjoy a moment for yourself when your child is absorbed in play or watching cartoons.
Being prepared for your child’s potential bouts of boredom is key. Make sure you have various toys or activities on hand that will capture their interest. Interactive toys, puzzles, or building sets can keep a child engaged long enough to give you the space you need. Balance between rest and productivity is essential. You don’t need to feel guilty if, instead of cleaning, you spend a moment with yourself and quietly enjoy a cup of tea or coffee.
4. Involving family and friends—support and sharing
As we mentioned above, parenting can be much easier with support from those close to you. Don’t be afraid to ask family and friends for help. They’re often willing to help more than you might think. Organizing shared babysitting can be another step. You can agree with friends or neighbors to take turns watching one another’s children. This way everyone gains time they can devote to themselves.
Support from loved ones isn’t only about practical help, but also about emotional support. The chance to share your experiences and worries with someone going through a similar life stage can be therapeutic.
5. Creating time for yourself: strategies and tips
Creating time for yourself can start with small steps. Begin by setting clear, realistic goals for when you want to have a moment to yourself. Even five quiet minutes a day can have a positive effect on your mental state. Releasing emotions with a walk in the fresh air or gentle exercise such as yoga can also bring relief from stress and tension. Daily exercise doesn’t have to be intense; what matters is regularity. If you have the option to be on your own for a while, decide in advance how you want to spend it. Do you want to tidy up at home in peace, read, or treat yourself to some self‑care? Ideally, choose an activity that brings you joy, not something that just sits on your to‑do list.
6. Reducing stress and supporting mental health
Mental health shouldn’t be neglected, especially during periods of intensive childcare. Managing stress can involve different methods, from relaxation techniques to consulting a professional. Caring for your mental well‑being also means paying attention to your body. Aim for proper nutrition, as much sleep as possible, and ideally regular movement.
If you feel you need support, try asking for it. There are a number of services and resources that can help parents better handle challenging periods. Remember that every parent learns as they go, and shared stories can offer useful advice and encouragement.
Finding time for yourself during the demanding period of caring for a small child may sound like an unattainable goal. Yet with a bit of planning, support from those around you, and a willingness to adapt to changing needs, you can reach a satisfying balance. Remember that self‑care isn’t a sign of selfishness; it’s essential for providing effective, loving care for your child.